I Learn From My Mistakes, Or Do I?
You made a mistake, one or more times, and now you are determined that you will not make that same mistake again.
The problem is, and reason that you do keep making the same mistakes, is that you do not know what the real mistake is.
You are trying to fix the wrong thing, like putting a cast on your arm when your leg is broken.
When you say you will not make the same mistake again, you are actually making a mistake now, by mistakingly thinking that you could have done things differently in the past and that you had a choice.
There are many reasons that we make mistakes; our innocence and inability to recognize or fight the natural human body and animal desires, passions and emotions that create chemicals in the brain that drove you far more powerfully than common sense or the ability to have objective reason and logic.
The body is designed to prevent you from recognizing that you do not have free will to think and determine your actions, which when we are younger is even more powerful.
One big mistake people make is the imagination that they have a choice of what to do or not do. That is simply not true and with a little honest self reflection you will see that there are so many things you know you should not do or say, but cannot stop yourself.
If you cannot stop yourself, then what makes you think you had a choice? And if you did not have a choice, then how can you think you made a mistake, if you were forced beyond your free will to take that decision.
The mistake is thinking you failed and made a mistake.
The mistake now is that you think you should have been able to see things and choose differently when in fact there was no way you were able to see those things or even choose differently when your body and hormones drove you with passion and desire.
Humans are part conscience and part animal. Our body has its desires and instincts like any animal, and that is controlled by chemicals produced in the brain which give us the feeling of passion, desire, pleasure and fear.
The strongest need for humans is that of companionship and affection. Sex is so powerful a drive because nature needs us, like all animals, to reproduce so the
Society makes you have the hope of a family. All these external and very powerful factors combine so you could not see what was there because the design of the human is to blind you to the obvious in the light of hope that fulfills desires.
That’s why we match with people who are clearly unreliable or selfish or players and think…they will change for me.
But you had no choice but to think that, it is how humans are designed, to lie to themselves in the face of all reason.
And so, the mistakes continue to multiply, fear grows, and we become old and tired.
But, if you see the real mistake, which is that no two events are ever the same, which should be obvious that it is impossible for any two events or people to be identical, and even if they are, you are not the same person you were yesterday, then develop objective reason and see each event for what it is.
Put the blame in the right place, and stop feeling you were wrong before and stopping yourself from taking what destiny is bringing you now.
You made so called mistakes when you were young.
You felt: how could you be so stupid, to make such a mistake.
So now you feel scared to make another mistake and go so slow things pass you by, which is a mistake.
But you do not realize that when you were 20, your body and brain chemicals are drugging you, so there was no way you could have avoided those choices.
You did not make a mistake. The reality is you did not have a choice because you were on drugs that are self produced and had no free will or ability to see objective reality but instead saw what your body wanted you to see so you could mate.
Now you have to realize you did not make any mistakes but that you had no free will because free will is conscious and you were driven by subconscious animal instincts.
Accepting that you did not choose wrongly, you did not make a mistake, now you should not have fear of making the same mistake, because you would not do the same thing for the same reasons.
Stop letting fear block you.
When young, the chemicals drove you, now, fear drives or rather paralyses you.
Accept you were not free before, you did not make a mistake before, you had no choice or free will before, and now with an open heart and fearless, take more chances and try.
That is the only way to make the best use of the remaining time.